creativity in it."
Now, this is a gorgeous looking man,
he has all these actresses around him
because that's the work he does,
and he doesn't get romance.
I said, "what do you want?"
"Well, I wanna date three women a week." 
"OK, paint yourself with three women
and hang it in every corner."
Six months later I see him in Europe.
I said, "how is your love life?"
"Great! They just call me,
they all wanna date me." 
"Because that's your wish."
"Now I have like three dates a week.
They're fighting over me." 
"Good on you."
"But I really wanna stabilize it a little bit.
I want marriage, and I want romance." 
"Well paint it."
So he painted a beautiful
romantic relationship.
And a year later he got married.
He was very happy.
Because he put another wish out
but he wished it himself for years.
But it did not happen, because
his wish could not manifest
because the outer level of himself (his house),
was just contradicting himself all the time.
So, if you know this knowledge,
you should start playing with it.
Inside relationships it's important to first
understand who's coming into the relationship.
And I don't mean about your partner,
I mean about you.
How can you ever expect anyone else
to enjoy your company
if you don't enjoy your own company?
And so again,
the Law of Attraction, or the secret
is about bringing that into your life
and you've gotta get really, really clear.
Here's the question I want
to ask you to consider:
do you treat yourself the way that
you want other people to treat you?
You become the solution for you.
Don't like, "now you own me, and you
need to get me more", instead
give more to yourself.
Take time off to give to yourself.
And in the sense,
you feel yourself up to fullness,
where now you can overflow and give it.
I got into many relationships, expecting
my partner to show me my beauty.
I needed to see him showing me my beauty.
Because I didn't feel beautiful.
Because when I was growing up,
my "sheroes" were
Charlie's Angels, Wonder Woman,
and though they were wonderful women
none of them looked like me.
It wasn't until I stopped
and I fell in love with Lisa,
full lips, round hips, mocha skin, Afro,
that the rest of the world
began to fall in love with Lisa.
There's something so magnificent about you.
I have been studying me for 44 years.
I wanna kiss myself!
Because, you're gonna get to love yourself.
I'm not talking about conceit.
I'm talking about a healthy respect for yourself.
And as you love yourself, you'll love others.
Sometimes people will say,
"those people at work are so negative",
or, "the man I live with is so angry",
or, "my children are so worrisome to me",
and we say, "you must orient yourself to
the best part of those people who surround you."
We encourage that you get a notebook,
and that you make a list of the positive aspects
of the people that you spend a lot of time with.
There could be someone that you have
a terrible experience with,
a terrible relationship with.
And in the privacy of your own mind,
and with quite a bit of work, we will admit,
as you focus upon things that you like most
those people will become that mostly to you
And even though
you cannot create in their reality,
if they are in the mood or in attitude
that doesn't match the mood or attitude
that you have about them,
they'll zig while you zag.
Law of Attraction will not put you
in the same space together,
you frequencies don't match up.
If you knew your potential to feel good,
you would ask no one to be different
so that you can feel good.
You would free yourself of all of that
cumbersome impossibility
of needing to control the world
or control your mate
or control your child.
For no one else can think for you,
no one else can do it.
It is only you.
Every bit of it you.
It's important to recognize that
our body is really the product of our thoughts.
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